Relationships Lost

I'm active in a grief group on Facebook. Someone posed a question in regard to widows that have young children and how people haven't been there for them like she had hoped they would be. 

My response to her:

I know your hurt and your struggles. I get it. I'm right there with you. I won't point out or judge anyone in particular. But, reality is... People go away. As if we haven't lost enough, our kids haven't lost enough, it's just how it is typically. I remember very early on, our grief counselor warning or preparing me that, quicker than you would think or expect, you will find yourself alone. The world keeps on turning. People go on with their lives. And there you are, left to deal with not only your grief, but the grief of your children. You take their grief and add it to the unimaginable pain you are feeling yourself. What a helpless feeling as a parent. That warning that I was given, becomes my reality. And quite honestly, no warning could prepare me for the hurt that reality would bring. It felt like along with a loss so great to even begin to describe, there was so much loss on top of that. So many other relationships were lost. But for me, after dealing with those feelings of hurt, I had to come to a place of acceptance. You can't make people be who you want or need them to be for you. You can't hold on to people that are walking in the other direction. You then need to just focus on the fact that, no matter what, no matter who walks in or out of the lives of your children, you will be there. You will be their constant.  And one day, when they look back, you hope that they won't focus on or only remember all that they lost, but they will remember who was there, through it all, and never left. You...

((Hugs)) to you all.